Seeking Support

Seeking Support

"Ask for help. Not because you are weak. But because you want to remain strong." -Les Brown I absolutely love so many things about my life situation right now, that: • This spirit baby chose us as his/her family; • I can feel life move inside my body (the coolest...

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The Shame Spiral

The Shame Spiral

"If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive." - Brene Brown It's been exactly a month since I wrote anything for my TracyJoy work. Over these past 30 days, I was hoping to put more focused time and energy...

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Embracing The Unknown

Embracing The Unknown

"Being a mother makes you the ultimate entrepreneur. " - Kate Northrup My sessional lecturing contract is done for another year, and as always, it was amazing being part of my student's journey through their engineering career. I'm so grateful and honored for those...

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Experiencing. Period

Experiencing. Period

What if the entire purpose of life was to experience. Just experience. Period. I kinda like this thought.   Firstly, if this was the case, then there are no good or bad or perfect or imperfect experiences. Everything is just an experience. We don't have to wait...

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The Magic is in the Breath

The Magic is in the Breath

The boys start winding down their days around 7:00pm. At this time, we have a routine in which they get their PJs on, go pee, brush their teeth and then go to their separate bedrooms for the night. Then after that, they only have three rules: Stay in their rooms...

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Science and Spirituality

Science and Spirituality

I grew up with science and sort of avoided spirituality. I liked facts, systems, organization, explanations, prediction and control. I used to think of spirituality as “out-there” stuff…and to be honest, I didn’t think much more than that. I didn’t even let myself...

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The Number One Thing I’ve Learned as a Life Coach

The Number One Thing I’ve Learned as a Life Coach

I’ve been involved with life coaching for three years now. Three years ago, I started seeing a life coach, and then a year after that, I became a life coach. Now, I’ve been coaching clients for two years. It’s been quite the journey. I’ve learned so many things: life...

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Celebrate Yourself!

Celebrate Yourself!

This is the last week of my free 5-week online mini course on work-life balance. This week I’ve asking all the participants to celebrate themselves. I want to extend that celebration out to my blog readers as well. Don’t forget to celebrate yourself! Sometimes we get...

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The Energy of Your Voice

The Energy of Your Voice

One evening this week, we were playing the card game Uno as a family at our kitchen table. Gavin was being especially loud, not in a yelling and crying way but in a laughing and joking sort of way. Nolan was part of the laughing and joking too, but not quit the same...

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Avoiding The Work You’re Passionate About

Avoiding The Work You’re Passionate About

Today, I procrastinated hard. In one week, I’m giving a one and a half our presentation/workshop to Saskatchewan Polytechnic employees about Nurturing Your Sparkle. I’m super excited about it and honored that they have asked me to do it. I’m passionate about this...

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I’m Sorry

I’m Sorry

I quit, and I’m sorry. I know that many of you liked reading my blogs, and looked forward to them every Friday afternoon. Many of you appreciated hearing my stories and lessons. They help you reflect on your own life and what you could do to feel better. And that was...

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What’s In Your Thought Library?

What’s In Your Thought Library?

We have something like 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. This means between 35 and 48 thoughts per minute. These thoughts come from all over. Some we've been thinking since we were kids and some are new. I like to think of our minds as a thought library. The ones we...

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When Panic Starts To Set In

When Panic Starts To Set In

I have never had a full-blown panic attack, so I don't know how those feel or even how to move through them. I do, however know what its like to work myself up so much that its hard to breath, I'm sweating like crazy, it feel like I might puke and I either have to run...

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Please Excuse The Mess In My Kitchen

Please Excuse The Mess In My Kitchen

This is a picture of my kitchen right now. It doesn’t mean that I’m a messy person. It doesn’t mean that my entire house is a mess. It doesn’t mean that I’m failing as a mom or wife. It doesn’t mean that I’m a bad person. In the past, the state of my kitchen would...

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How To Get Unstuck

How To Get Unstuck

This blog was hard to write. Why? Because I’m feeling a little stuck. I don't know what to write about. I don’t know what I want to share.   I’m doubting my skills, my message and myself. I’m feeling a little lost, discouraged and burnt out.   I’m a bit mad...

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34 Years Of What?

34 Years Of What?

I turned 34 years old yesterday. So, what does that mean?   ...that I’ve been in this body for 34 years? No, because my body isn’t the same today as it was when I was 2 years old, 21 years old or even last week, for that matter. Our bodies are always changing....

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How To Have The Best Family Vacation

How To Have The Best Family Vacation

My family and I were in Waskesiu this week. It was a last minute decision (we made the decision to go on Friday and left Monday afternoon), and I was a bit nervous about it, but what the hell, we decided to go camping for the first time with the kids. It turned out...

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Are You Clean Or Messy?

Are You Clean Or Messy?

“Every creature is messy and clean in their own way.” – The Kratt Brothers from Zoboomafoo   The human creatures in our house definitely are messy and clean in their own way.  My 5 year old has a habit of cleaning his face with his shirt. It’s such a habit that...

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Parenting Anxiety

Parenting Anxiety

The boys and I biked to a new playground this week. To get there, we had to bike along the busy city sidewalks where there is a driveway every 30 feet or so, cross a couple major roads and even go through a sketchy, dark, damp pedestrian tunnel. Not to mention that my...

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Last Day Can Bring Up Emotions

Last Day Can Bring Up Emotions

Today is the last day of school for my boys, until September of course. I’m so proud of them, and I can’t believe that they’re growing up so fast. Tonight is a special potluck celebration where Nolan gets to sing Spanish songs and graduate on the stage. He’s super...

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Fear and Parenting

Fear and Parenting

My son is obsessed with “doing tricks” on his bike. He’s been riding a pedal bike since he was three and he is literally on it every day if it’s nice outside. Recently he’s also added a scooter to his repertoire, and “when I turn six I want a skateboard” he reminds me...

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I Want Coffee!

I Want Coffee!

Lately I’ve been really craving a big cup of coffee. But the thing is...I haven’t had a sip of coffee for about two years now, and rarely had any at all for the last five years. I don’t like the taste and I absolutely don’t like the way it makes me feel. Even having a...

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When Life Gets Messy, Clean It Up

When Life Gets Messy, Clean It Up

Sometimes I stare at my kitchen with disgust and complain about how many dirty dishes are all over the counter, and how messy the pantry is, and how unorganized the fridge is. I could literally spend a whole afternoon staring at it complaining about the mess. It gets...

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If You Believe It, Life Will Support You

If You Believe It, Life Will Support You

I spent Wednesday morning researching, creating and preparing for my Anxiety Workshop last night. After 2.5 hours of really great concentrated working, I started losing focus. I went to the fridge twice in 5 minutes. I would get up and forget why. Then I was sort of...

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Being a Good Parent and Money

Being a Good Parent and Money

I finished doing by taxes this week, and my total income for 2015 was $29,470. When I saw that number, my heart fell. Immediately my thoughts went to: That’s not enough. What the hell am I doing? I’m not contributing enough to this family. To put it into perspective,...

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Failure

Failure

I was driving home after my last class of my sessional lecturing assignment.  I thought to myself, “I’m either going to explode with laughter or break down bawling right now.” I had no idea what I was feeling. I did know, however, that I was reaching my limit of...

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Getting Laid Off

Getting Laid Off

It’s been 2 years and 2 weeks, exactly, since I was laid off from my full time engineering consulting job. I’m still adjusting from the changes it caused in my life. The day and weeks following the “incident”, I felt every emotion there was. Before and during the...

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Murder Close to Home

Murder Close to Home

I am sad and confused. A friendly woman on our street was murdered this week by her son. How does this happen? Why does it happen? How could a son murder his mom? It was a regular Wednesday morning for us. Justen woke up early to go swimming. I was at home getting the...

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It’s Not About Your Child, It’s About You

It’s Not About Your Child, It’s About You

Last weekend, my 5 year old son had his Skate Saskatoon Ice Show at Sasktel Center. As a mom, this was the first time that I’ve ever done something like this. Sure, I’ve taken him to kinder soccer or swimming lessons or even to his skating lessons. But this was...

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Why Are You Procrastinating?

Why Are You Procrastinating?

This week I decided to write about procrastination. Why? Because we all do it! And it turns out that I’m currently two hours into writing this blog, and I’ve only written three sentences...but in those two hours I’ve made tea, checked my emails three times, replied to...

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Right Brain vs Left Brain

Right Brain vs Left Brain

One of my biggest struggles is finding balance between my left and right brain - finding that balance between my masculine energy and my feminine energy. For example, I just did one of those Facebook quizzes to find out my left and right brain results...and guess...

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The Difference A New Bra Can Make

The Difference A New Bra Can Make

I bought a new bra on the weekend. This was a huge thing for me. Buying a bra is one of those things that I really hate doing. I don’t like shopping. I don’t like spending money on clothes (especially clothes that no one really sees). I don’t know what size I am...

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The Professional Mindset

The Professional Mindset

When I was working full time at Golder Associates as a Water Resources Engineer, I was nervous to make a mistake most of the time. When someone walked into my office, I immediately thought they were there because I did something wrong. Did I make a calculation error?...

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Your Child Doesn’t Need You All the Time

Your Child Doesn’t Need You All the Time

The moment I became a mother, I was anxious, tensed and worried. If I was away from him, I felt bad. If I took a bath, I thought it was selfish. I could barely handle going to volleyball once a week because I literally could not get my child off my mind. At the time,...

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The Morning Doesn’t Have To Be Madness

The Morning Doesn’t Have To Be Madness

Our mornings are a bit crazy. Every morning seems like the same old routine, but at the same time, it’s a bit like “what’s it going to be like today”. For our family, a typical morning looks something like this: My husband gets up first and either goes swimming before...

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How To Find A Good Daycare

How To Find A Good Daycare

Finding good daycare can be a roller coaster of emotions. So many questions and emotions come up. For some, this might be the first time thinking about leaving your child with another person. Or for others, the search can be overwhelming. Where do you start? How early...

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How To Deliberately Create What You Want

How To Deliberately Create What You Want

I’ve changed so much over the last three years. I often talked about “my old self” and “my new self”, but that’s not entirely correct. I’m still me...always...and I’m always changing, growing and expanding as a human being...we all are. But if I had to categorize the...

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Our Behavior Teaches Our Kids

Our Behavior Teaches Our Kids

We were stopped behind traffic at a red light on our drive to my four-year old’s preschool. This is normal. We hit many red lights on our way to the school, but what my four year old did next caught me by surprise. He said impatiently, “Come on Lady! Drive!” I was...

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Energy and Wellness

Energy and Wellness

Everything is made up of energy. Energy is information that vibrates. Light is energy. Sound is energy. Smell is energy. Emotions are energy. Thought is energy. Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies & amplitudes. Some of the energy we see and...

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Priorities Create Clarity

Priorities Create Clarity

I've been feeling a little lost, confused and unsure lately. It wasn't until a couple days ago that I realized I was feeling this way because I lost clarity on my direction in life. I had randomly taken on a wide range of things and suddenly found myself overwhelmed....

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How To Get Out Of A Bad Mood

How To Get Out Of A Bad Mood

Do you ever find yourself in a bad mood and don’t know why? You know it’s not helping your life situation but you just can’t shake it. I think we’ve all been there. I was just there a couple days ago, and I want to share with you how I got out of it. 1. Acceptance...

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What’s Your Ideal Day

What’s Your Ideal Day

In my past, I’d always equated visualizing with sports. I’d heard many coaches talk about visualizing the ball going in the net, or visualize the game before you head out on to the court. But the truth is I never visualized how I want my life to be. Yes, I knew I...

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Winter Is Beautiful Too

Winter Is Beautiful Too

It snowed this week in Saskatoon. My parents are down in Arizona. The boys are wearing their winter jackets. Our dog spends more time inside than outside. You know what all these mean? It means that winter is on its way. I can’t remember exactly what my parents said...

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Listen to Your Own Parenting Advice

Listen to Your Own Parenting Advice

We have a play area downstairs for our kids. It’s often a hockey rink or soccer field or something of that nature. In this instance, it was a mess with Tinker Toys everywhere. Our three year old grabbed his mini stick, put on his Saskatoon Blades jersey and headed...

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Take Responsibility of Your Feelings

Take Responsibility of Your Feelings

A kitten walked through our door this week. We don't have a cat. I didn’t know where she came from or who she belonged to. My husband was leaving for work and as he opened the door, she literally just walked right in. The boys and I immediately started smiling,...

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We Are All Emotional

We Are All Emotional

Last week I was at a Women in Mining event. At one of the break-out sessions titled “Negotiating For Yourself”, someone said that you shouldn’t be emotional at work. I immediately thought, “Well, of course you can. Everyone has emotions all the time. It’s literally...

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The Truth About Life

The Truth About Life

It was the night of the super moon eclipse. I looked at the clock and it was exactly 3:33am. Everyone was sleeping except me, which is great, I’d rather that than be up with the boys. But I couldn’t quiet my mind; it was wandering like crazy. I was thinking about a...

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Stages of Returning to Work After Maternity Leave

Stages of Returning to Work After Maternity Leave

Returning to work after maternity leave can be difficult because there is a rollercoaster ride of emotions and thoughts. From my experience and from many other women I’ve talked to who are or were struggling, I’ve broken down the process of...

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We’re All Human

We’re All Human

It was a couple days before we left for our much-anticipated vacation to Canmore. We were, for the first time since having kids, going to see the mountains again! My husband said to me, “I think we should get an oil change before we go”. I...

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Your Child Will Cry For You

Your Child Will Cry For You

So, this morning both boys freaked out when I dropped them off at daycare and preschool. When my littlest noticed which way we were driving, he started whining and mumbling. When we pulled into my daycare provider’s driveway he began crying,...

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Something Bugging You? Got a Problem?

Something Bugging You? Got a Problem?

Seriously, do you have a problem? Think about something in your life right now that’s bugging you. You got something? Perfect. Let’s solve it. Actually, first a quick question – why haven’t you solved this problem already? The truth is that...

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Decisions, decisions…What’s the right one?

Decisions, decisions…What’s the right one?

I’m struggling with a decision right now...should I stay involved or should I move on. I’ve been flip flopping for the last month. One day, I’m committed to moving on, the next I’ve convinced myself that staying involved in serving me....

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Stuck in Overwhelm…Again

Stuck in Overwhelm…Again

Feeling overwhelmed is something that I keep getting caught up in. It’s a pattern of mine. I hate it, but I keep doing it.  Why? I don’t know... Let’s explore together. As we explore my pattern, think of feeling that you often find yourself...

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Sometimes We Just Have To Cry

Sometimes We Just Have To Cry

The last couple of days, I’ve felt...”off”. I’m not sure what’s wrong. I’m not super angry or anxious. I’m not upset at anyone in particular (even myself). I’m having a hard time laughing. I’m not overly motivated to do too much. I don’t...

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How Expectations Hurt

How Expectations Hurt

I know this is a post about expectations, but please sit back for a minute and think about all your accomplishments in life...here, I’ll help you: You moved out on your own when you finished high school. You have a degree that you worked...

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Motherhood and Perfectionism Don’t Mix

Motherhood and Perfectionism Don’t Mix

Before my oldest was born, I was a perfectionist. I got good grades in school...from elementary school to my Master’s degree. I tried to be the “best” athlete, and I only did sports that I knew I was good at. My room stayed neat, my bed was...

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The Dreaded Daycare Drop Off

The Dreaded Daycare Drop Off

How do/did you feel dropping your child off at daycare? I’m guessing that you feel/felt guilty. I sure did. But, I’m not here to tell you that you shouldn’t feel guilty. Google Mom Guilt and you’ll find things like “31 Reasons You Shouldn’t...

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Stop The Mind Madness

Stop The Mind Madness

I took my dog for a walk. Of course he needs exercise and to poop and all that jazz, but mainly I did it because I needed to get out. I wanted to be “in nature”, to get grounded again, and most importantly, to stop thinking! To stop insanely...

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True Strength

True Strength

I've been working on balancing  my masculine and feminine energies. Every man and every women has both masculine and feminine energy.  You can think of them as Yin and Yang; we need both for harmony. Being overly masculine or overly feminine...

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The Smart To-Do List

The Smart To-Do List

I drove my youngest to daycare, then drove my oldest to preschool, then I rushed home because I had so much to do. I got home, checked my calendar and realized that I had no scheduled appointments for the day. Wow, I had so much time, yet I...

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My sweet boys, I like you always.

My sweet boys, I like you always.

It was a long night of trying to get the boys to bed...which happens most nights, especially in the summer.  I totally get it; who wants to go to bed when its sunny and beautiful out? Except this night was different, the wind was picking up, the sky was getting dark,...

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Are You Your Career?

Are You Your Career?

I recently finished up my first sessional lecturing contract. I was teaching a great group of fourth-year Civil Engineering students.  For many, this was their last semester before they graduate as Civil Engineers and go out into the “real” world.  Doing this got me...

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More than Just Makeup

More than Just Makeup

I’ve started wearing lipstick regularly...for the first time ever. Sure, I’ve always used lip moisturizers and when I was a teenager, I had a ton of Lip Smackers and other fun coloured, yummy smelling lip balms (didn’t we all?).  But this is different.  This lipstick...

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